Over the years, I have been asked numerous times, “What can I do to be more confident in my relationship?” The truth of the matter is that I don’t have all of the answers to this question, but I will do my best to shed some light on a few things that can help. If you are like me, it can be hard to know where to turn when your confidence in your relationship is slipping.
If you feel that you are overly self-conscious, then I suggest you take a look at how you are spending your time with your partner. Are you spending a great deal of time with your phone? Do you spend too much time at home? Do you fight with your spouse about which electronic device to use? If your answers to these questions are no, then you need to reevaluate how you interact with your partner. This may sound silly, but if you are feeling insecure about yourself and your relationship, then this is definitely a big problem.
How can I be more confident in my relationship if I am constantly worrying about what others think about me? I know this sounds strange because most people never consider this scenario. But if you are always worried about what people think, then you are sabotaging your relationship by making it hard for your partner to be confident in you. Have you ever considered replacing all of your passwords with a password system? This is an easy solution and it will drastically improve how you interact with your partner.
Does it seem as though you can never get enough of yourself? Do you spend hours in front of the mirror grooming yourself? If so, I have some news for you: you are wasting a lot of time with yourself! If you want to be more confident in your relationship, then you are going to have to stop wasting so much time around yourself.
Do you find that you are always seeking reassurance from others more than you seek it from yourself? This means that you are not paying attention to the things that are most important to you. How can I be more confident if I am constantly telling myself that I don’t measure up to the standard that I’m setting for myself? There has got to be a better way to look at things.
What is it that is most important to you? Are you looking for reassurance from others or are you more focused on your own needs? The truth is that your relationship isn’t strong enough by itself to hold the confidence and trust that you need. Your partner should be doing the same for you. You need to be the one asking the questions and the one hearing the answers.
So how can I be more confident when I am working with my partner? Well, you are not going to be able to do it by yourself. You are simply going to need to ask for help. Hire a professional, like a coach or even some type of personal development mentor that can help you understand how you should be thinking, feeling and even doing so that you are more confident in what you are doing.
You have to believe in yourself before you can ask for help. If you don’t think that you are good enough, then how can you expect someone else to see things your way? This is an ongoing issue that people who suffer from low self esteem to have to deal with on a daily basis. It is going to take time and a lot of effort on your part to build your confidence but if you are willing to make the effort then you will be much more successful in making any changes in your life than someone who thinks they are good enough on their own and therefore cannot ask for help.